Monday, September 11, 2006
Hey Guys! Don't be Someone Who Grumbles!
If you want to keep your significant other happy and content - do things for her. Willingly.
Run errands. Surprise her by filling her car with gas. Switch roles for a day.
Offer to help with a chore she doesn't particularly enjoy doing. The fact that you offer may come as a pleasant surprise.
Pick something you really don’t like to do and do it "without grumbling" while you do it. The secret is to not tell her you don't like it and focus on the fact that although you don't like to do it you know the affect it will have on your relationship.
Men often have a need to grumble while doing something they don't like. When you make a choice not to grumble, your partner will most likely reward you by helping you fulfill one of your basic needs: approval. There could be other needs but face it, you like to be recognized for your accomplishments no matter how small.
Remember, foreplay begins with taking out the garbage "without being asked!"
Run errands. Surprise her by filling her car with gas. Switch roles for a day.
Offer to help with a chore she doesn't particularly enjoy doing. The fact that you offer may come as a pleasant surprise.
Pick something you really don’t like to do and do it "without grumbling" while you do it. The secret is to not tell her you don't like it and focus on the fact that although you don't like to do it you know the affect it will have on your relationship.
Men often have a need to grumble while doing something they don't like. When you make a choice not to grumble, your partner will most likely reward you by helping you fulfill one of your basic needs: approval. There could be other needs but face it, you like to be recognized for your accomplishments no matter how small.
Remember, foreplay begins with taking out the garbage "without being asked!"
Who YOU are being makes a difference in your relationship
It affects who your partner is and how they respond to you. If how they respond to you causes you stress, discomfort, etc., it may be wise to make some new choices about who you are being in the relationship. It may be the cause of why they are being the way they are.
When we make adjustments in the way we are being with our love partner, over time they begin to give the appearance of changing; sometimes for the worse, but generally for the better. This is so because as our behavior changes our attitudes about them also changes. We begin to see them as someone who is doing the best they can (or know how) and we become more loving toward them.
So if your intention is to change your partner. . . give it up! It won't happen. What can happen is a more loving relationship when YOU are being the change agent for your own attitudes and behavior. What have you got to lose?
When we make adjustments in the way we are being with our love partner, over time they begin to give the appearance of changing; sometimes for the worse, but generally for the better. This is so because as our behavior changes our attitudes about them also changes. We begin to see them as someone who is doing the best they can (or know how) and we become more loving toward them.
So if your intention is to change your partner. . . give it up! It won't happen. What can happen is a more loving relationship when YOU are being the change agent for your own attitudes and behavior. What have you got to lose?
Who YOU are being makes a difference in your relationship
It affects who your partner is and how they respond to you. If how they respond to you causes you stress, discomfort, etc., it may be wise to make some new choices about who you are being in the relationship. It may be the cause of why they are being the way they are.
When we make adjustments in the way we are being with our love partner, over time they begin to give the appearance of changing; sometimes for the worse, but generally for the better. This is so because as our behavior changes our attitudes about them also changes. We begin to see them as someone who is doing the best they can (or know how) and we become more loving toward them.
So if your intention is to change your partner. . . give it up! It won't happen. What can happen is a more loving relationship when YOU are being the change agent for your own attitudes and behavior. What have you got to lose?
When we make adjustments in the way we are being with our love partner, over time they begin to give the appearance of changing; sometimes for the worse, but generally for the better. This is so because as our behavior changes our attitudes about them also changes. We begin to see them as someone who is doing the best they can (or know how) and we become more loving toward them.
So if your intention is to change your partner. . . give it up! It won't happen. What can happen is a more loving relationship when YOU are being the change agent for your own attitudes and behavior. What have you got to lose?
