Thank you so very much for your kind communications with me last night and today. Your suggestions and comments are
thought-provoking and insightful. I counsel with many people about their situations, but when it comes to my own, I seem
to lose objectivity and need guidance myself! - A Therapist (Name withheld by request)
Personal Relationship Coaching
Speak One-on-One with Larry James
Has your relationship hit a brick wall?
Things not so "hot" in the bedroom?
No more romance? Wanna heat things up? -
Larry James will help you break through the barrier!
In a society flooded with self-help information, sometimes hearing the words or reading the books just isn't enough. You may have the facts but don't know how to apply them. To meet this need, you are invited to call Larry James for coaching.
Larry James is a "solution finder." He is available by telephone for personal relationship coaching for high functioning singles and married couples; people who are committed to "doing" whatever it takes to make their relationships work. Mature people know their relationships can always be better. A healthier love relationship is the goal.
Larry believes it is nearly impossible to inspire couples to change when his path (and yours too) is blocked by the sacred cow: "There is only one answer for each relationship problem." This is not true. It is better to kill the sacred cow. Sacred cows make the best hamburgers.
There really are no pat answers. Men and women are different. Every couple relates to their problems differently. It is a wonder men and women get along as well as they do.
Larry's job is to be curious and to help you gain more understanding. A good relationship coach doesn't claim to have all the answers for why you are the way you are although we may have some ideas that we will willingly share with you. When it comes to getting answers and more understanding, we will form hypotheses together and you will come to your own conclusions. A relationship coach facilitates that process. They don't tell you how to think, believe or act.
He is not here to give you advice. He will be there for you to share his knowledge with you and help you make your own decisions that are balanced, rational, and well-explored. Strengthening your own reasoning and decision-making skills will increase your independence and self-esteem.
He can help you gain more clarity, more understanding, and form a plan of action, but relationship coaching is not a magic pill that erases all issues. It takes work, and YOU have to do the work. If you're up for the challenge, he will be there every step of the way!
When you speak to him about your relationship issues... he listens!
Smart relationship coaches don't know everything - that's why they ask such good questions.
The wise man doesn't give the right answers, he poses the right questions. - Claude Levi-Strauss
Have any of these issues in your relationship?
Little or No Affection
Emotional or Physical Abuse
on the verge of Divorce
A Stubborn Partner
No Sex or Intimacy
Poor or No Communication
Lack of Appreciation
No Success with Prior Relationship Coaching or Therapy
If you have any of these issues in your relationship, Larry James can help you!
Relationship Momentum Twarted by a Boulder in the Road??
Sometimes trying to fix your own relationship is like standing in a bucket and trying to lift yourself up by the handle.
Larry's ability to be your "committed listener" enables him to better understand the problem. He listens for clues that suggest
questions you may have overlooked. Often the answer can be found within the question. It may be a question you are afraid to ask
yourself. It may be a question with an answer you know and do not want to accept. He listens for clues that present solutions
he can suggest that are unique to "your" relationship.
To experience breakthroughs in your relationship you must accept and embrace mistakes/problems. They are there to make you. . .
not break you. First you must acknowledge the mistake/problem, have the courage to talk with someone with the wisdom to help you,
learn from the experience, offer forgiveness (if necessary), take steps to prevent its reoccurence and move on.
Learning can only take place outside the shadow of pride. Anything that resists correction is a part of what is wrong. -
If you are experiencing situations in your relationship that prevent the full expression of love for your partner, you are
invited to arrange for a personal relationship coaching session by telephone with Larry James. You can count on him to offer
the support you need for those everyday problems that inevitability occur in relationships.
During his nearly three year tenure as host of the "Mars & Venus Chat Room" on America Online, Dr. John Gray, Ph.D. personally
directed Larry to answer the thousands of relationship questions that were sent to Dr. Gray by e-mail. Although Larry is not a
therapist, he has assisted singles and couples with answers to more than 5,000 relationship questions for Dr. Gray under his own name and
thousands of addition relationship questions through his relationship coaching.
Larry's relationship books are reviewed prior to publication for authenticity, accuracy and content by a team of professional
therapists and counselors. . .
Dr. Larry Losoncy, Ph.D. (Tulsa, OK), a family therapist
Patty Kellogg, M.A. (Vancouver, WA), a private practice counselor
Dr. John Gray, Ph.D. (Mill Valley, CA), author, "Men Are From Mars, Woman Are From Venus"
Michael Najarian, M.A. (Bainbridge Island, WA), counselor and former associate of Dr. John Gray, Ph.D.
Sometimes the greatest journey is the distance between two people! -
Thank you for being there for me when I needed a shoulder to cry on. You were so compassionate and understanding that
it made me cry. I realized I definitely had a serious problem to deal with, and you helped me to realize that. Since
then I have been making a conscious effort to find ways to develop a healthy relationship between my husband and myself.
Thank you so much for your quick reply. You helped me through a particularly difficult day!
Thank you for your guidance. Your advice has shown me a side that I never acknowledged. It means changing my outlook on
life (for the better) through a process of self-reflection. I do realize that this is important for a healthier attitude
towards myself and towards others. It will take time. I did live in the shadow of the relationship, and the sacrifice
was my own self-esteem.
Thank you for your advice. You're right. It was not the answer I wanted to hear, however it was the answer I needed to know!
It is really amazing how we are communicating more and better. I couldn't imagine how good our relationship could be. We
are both learning to be especially honest about what we want and need from one another. I don't feel guilty or selfish
anymore when I make my requests known. It feels great!!! We are "Celebrating Love!" I thank God for people like you
who have seen the need through your experiences to help people and their relationships to succeed. You have made a difference
in our lives and for that we will be forever grateful.
THANKS so much for your response! Wow! It contained so much information I will need to read it several times in order to
absorb it all! What you say makes sense to me. I am currently in the process of gathering my resources; i.e., God, a counselor,
support group, friends and family that I think will be helpful as I attempt (one more time) to end this affair. Thanks so much
for being here and having the desire to help others!
Thanks so much for your response to my question about forgiving (after the) discovery of years of infidelity of my partner.
Your words are very inspirational and I will save them to re-read as needed. I am most appreciative.
When you are in the middle of a very confusing situation, it is sometimes hard to evaluate available options. Thanks for
outlining options for me and for giving suggestions. Maybe now I can move forward a bit.
Thanks so much for the insight and wisdom that you've shared so freely and
without restraint at such a critical time in my life. Things have improved
greatly in my marriage and I'm looking to God to do a greater miracle in our
hearts and our life. When things were so rough I would always ask myself if the
point in question would "build up" or "tear down". It was a great tool of
direction for me. Your books, advise, chats, and letters that you poured
yourself into surely did MUCH to build up my marriage and my self. It also
restored hope and respect. It is my hope that we truly do meet someday. Thanks
for touching and making a positive change in my life.
Your coaching last January has helped me a lot and your advice stays with me. I have
grown and changed so much in the last year. I am so grateful for your wisdom,
kindness and loving spirit that you share with the world. Thank you for telling me,
"like it is." I appreciate your approach to relationships with such honesty and
compassion. The universe needs you; you are certainly one of God's special angels
doing his work here on earth. Thank you, Larry!
Things are going very well. Communication between us is better and we're planning almost weekly date
nights for the next month. I sent him a card at his work and that really helped his attitude, so thank you for that suggestion.
I want you to know that it is very comforting to know that there are people like you
that have such a genuine care and love to help others. I hope that many
others benefit from your knowledge and wisdom.
Close to a year and a half ago I contacted you concerning a girlfriend of mine.
I took your advice about letting go and moving on and applied it accordingly.
Within 1 month of that experience I met my sweetheart. I am happy to
announce that we were recently engaged and will be married in August 2003.
Thank you for your continued support!
The best time -- in fact, the only time -- to make a real change in your life is in the moment of seeing the need for it.
He who hesitates always gets lost in the hundred reasons why tomorrow is a better day to get started! -
Always remember. . .
Relationships are something that must be worked on "ALL THE TIME," not only when they are broken and need to be fixed.
Relationships rarely fix themselves. Never walk on eggshells, afraid to bring up sensitive issues. If your relationship is on the rocks and you aren't moving
toward either a solution or dissolution, then you aren't actively managing the process and need to take a more proactive role.
Let fresh eyes discover new solutions and offer suggestions that will help you with your nagging relationship issues.
Be prepared to truthfully answer the questions Larry asks you about your relationship.
Larry James pulls no punches. He tells it like it is. If the truth hurts. . . be grateful.
Larry lives in Scottsdale, AZ and can also arrange to be your relationship coach face-to-face.
Please DO NOT CALL if you intend to make no changes. Expert advice only helps if you listen and change your behavior. Larry's
inspirational guidance can and will help!
If you have a basic urgency to make your relationship better and are ready to take full responsibility for your relationship
and make some changes in the way you are being in your relationship, you are encouraged to call.
When it comes to 'What should I do?' about the painful negative states we see in ourselves, here is all we need to know: what is condemned remains concealed; what is concealed never heals. -
Larry shares his inspired insight with clarity, style and good taste. He is a thoughtful, compassionate coach. He fully
acknowledges his responsibility to practice what he teaches; inspiring others by example. Larry James is a gifted teacher;
a specialist in matters of the heart.
It is highly recommended that you read the following articles prior to calling to arrange for a confidential relationship
coaching session by telephone.
"Larry James speaks from the heart. His words carefully craft a message of hope that inspires couples to work
together in a spirit of love and understanding. The powerful effect of his work in the area of relationships
can change your life!"
Jack Canfield, Bestselling Co-Author Chicken Soup for the Soul series
I found your articles helpful and did not think I needed extensive counseling, just a push in the right direction.
Based on what you had written I felt your approach was good for me. I was right that you were the right call
to make. Thank you. - D.R. (Name withheld by request)
Thanks, Larry. Your support and expert advice really helped - D.A. (Name withheld by request)
He that won't be counseled can't be helped - Benjamin Franklin
NOTE: November and December are months that typically bring
to mind family and friends. It is often a difficult time for people who have lost a loved one through death, divorce or
separation. If you need to talk to someone who will listen during the holidays. . . call Larry James today!
Call now to arrange an appointment for personal relationship coaching. Half hour and
one hour coaching fees are available. Appointments after regular office hours are available upon request.
"Learning can only take place outside the shadow of pride. Anything that resists correction is a part of what is wrong." -
Free advice is not respected and it is seldom implemented. Those who pay have a greater respect for information than those getting it free. - Markus Allen
Sign on a Synagogue Bulletin Board
Don't give up. Moses was once a basket case too.
"The greatest thing you can do for another is not just share your riches, but reveal to them their own." - Benjamin Disraeli, Former British Prime Minister
Larry's Note: That's what a great coach does!
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For the "funny side" of relationship coaching, take a look at a very funny video.