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A Recovering Rager's Creed

Newton Hightower, Guest Author
From the book "Anger Busting 101"

1.   I will practice self-restraint as a top priority today!

2.   When angry, I will act the opposite of how I feel.

3.   If I am feeling like my anger is about to erupt, I will quietly leave the situation.

4.   I will find truth in all criticisms directed toward me today, especially from my partner.

5.   I will say, "You are right," in a sincere, meaningful way when criticized.

6.   I will give an example of how the person who criticized me is right.

7.   I will repeat silentlly to myself, "I am better off being wrong, because when I am right, I am dangerous."

8.   I will avoid explaining myself in any way by saying, "I have no idea why I did that. It doesn't make any sense to me either."

9.   I will listen sympathetically to my partner when she tells me about her day. I will make eye contact and turn off the TV.

10.   I will give no unsolicited advice to my wife or children. I will also avoid asking, "Do you know what you should do?" or "Do you know why that happened?"

11.   I will avoid blaming family members for anything today, especially if it was their fault.

12.   I will avoid trying to make any family member "understand."

13.   I will avoid trying to convinence my child or spouse that I am being fair.

14.   I will look for an opportunity to sincerely praise everyone I live with, even the cat I don't like.

15.   I will humblt commit myself to removing my angry behaviors today as my contribution toward a more peaceful world.

Copyright © 2003 - Newton Hightower. Reprinted with permission. Adapted from the book, "Anger Busting 101: New ABCs for Angry Men & the Women Who Love Them."

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